Why we’re leaving Mom Guilt in 2025

Too often we hear from our clients and community “I feel like I should be able to handle it on my own” to which I always respond “we’re not doing that anymore - it’s time to leave Mom guilt behind us.”

Why do we feel like we should carry the weight of the home and our family’s wellbeing alone without help from our partner, village, and community? Parenting has historically been a collective effort - a group sport that involves multiple generations, friends and neighbors coming together to support each other, playing off each other’s strengths and lifting each other up. 

So why in 2026 do we still feel like we shouldn’t ask for help at all? 

Many of us - especially women - were taught explicitly (or passively) that we should be able to carry the load ourselves or that it was a sign of weakness to raise our hands and say ”I need help.” 

Social media plays a role when we see glamorous influencers looking like they “have it all” but in reality, the successful social media moms have a whole team of support behind the scenes. Same for the corporate moms who listened to Sheryl Sandberg’s call to “lean in” - but many of them have a supportive partner, live in help, cleaners, and more. 

For the rest of us living our very regular lives every day, we also deserve the help without stigma. It’s not a sign of weakness to seek support. In fact I would say it is a sign of strength to draw boundaries, be vulnerable with your community and realize your time is precious so you should be choosy with how you spend it. 

When clients come to us they are often in a state of crisis, saying they feel like they are “drowning” and will “never get caught up enough to be able to plan ahead.” 

"We’re drowning in crisis after crisis and can’t get to the important normal maintenance stuff."

So this year, let’s put the notion of “mom guilt” behind us and let’s ask for help before we feel like we are drowning!